Mini Essay

The Virtual Cleavage Is Your Brain

All you need to do is use it. Your luck might change.

A common sentiment I hear from people is that virtual dating is an impossible task. We took all these missing elements for granted before covid-19— physical touch, face-to-face conversation, and real-life quality time. Right now, dating feels like playing minesweeper, where one must stay clear of hidden mines and bombs. These bombs or mines are the awkward ZOOM silences or the coldness of texting.

This problem makes me think of a different kind of approach. What if we wore different hats when we date? Think about it in three hats:

Date like a scientist. Scientists carry out experiments.
Try out different date ideas and never keep the dates the same.
Please spend some time studying the other person and their interests.

Date like a podcaster. Podcasters are natural conversationalists. Like them, ask a lot of questions. Do your research. Show curiosity.

Date like a writer. Writers observe the world and express it through a string of sentences. They also are incredible storytellers and can transport you to another place. Write better and share stories.

Dating is a skill that takes practice and effort. No one is ever unlucky in dating. We only need an ounce of imagination. So before you think of what to wear or how you look, think of what hat you want to wear— a scientist, a podcaster, a writer, or perhaps a different kind.

Tell me, if you were to date, what kind of hat would you wear?

About the author

About the author

Bea Trinidad host a podcast about smarter love - Thirsty & Thirty. She is also the official storyteller of a culinary school, CCA Manila. She can help you with writing projects like a love story gift to your special someone or telling your company’s story.

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