Mini Essay

Is being vulnerable desirable?

No one is happy 24/7.
No one is optimistic 24/7.
No one is hopeful 24/7.

I’ve noticed that people are cracking in the countless number of zoom calls and instant messages I’ve had. We’ve been trying to hold it together since the pandemic began.
We post daily on social media, showing our most photogenic and happy selves. But we are having a shitty time. Why can’t we admit it?

“We love seeing raw truth and openness in other people, but we’re afraid to let them see it in us.” Brené Brown, a professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, wrote in her book, ‘Daring Greatly.’
The fear gets in the way.

A scientific phenomenon called “The Beautiful Mess” suggests that we should be less afraid of opening up. In our heads, we think being vulnerable means weakness. Yet, in many studies, when people share their vulnerabilities, their desirability goes up.

Try it.
Confess your feelings.
Own up to a mistake.
Ask for help.

There’s nothing to be afraid of. These moments of vulnerability make us more human and, in many cases, more likable.

About the author

About the author

Bea Trinidad host a podcast about smarter love - Thirsty & Thirty. She is also the official storyteller of a culinary school, CCA Manila. She can help you with writing projects like a love story gift to your special someone or telling your company’s story.

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